Just Be
When we link our identity to our "doing", then we will judge and identify others based upon what they do, or do not do. This creates comparison and judgments between each other, which leads to feelings of inferiority, superiority, etc. Such feelings do not create atmospheres of love and acceptance, but of striving, proving, and earning. The first atmosphere is one that feels safe, the latter is one of uncertainty and fear. The way to create, and to be, a safe space is to not have an agenda.
This is similar to the idea of unconditional love. Unconditional love heals, but not because it has an agenda to heal. Love heals because it accepts, listens, comforts, and is always present no matter what an individual does, or does not, do. Pure Love has no conditions. Conditions create fear, but pure love casts out fear. The absence of any expectation or desired result is what makes Love the most powerful. When we want less and less from people they become more available to us. When you don't have an agenda for people you become a safe space. Be a safe place for people. Find others who can be a safe place for you. Have no agenda for them. Have fewer expectations from them.
On a daily basis, most of us continue to move from need to need (in our flesh/ego). "I need food. I need a drink. I need to sit. Now I need some popcorn. Now I need some attention on social media, now I need ..." We are always going through the hierarchy of needs. From one need to another, serving our flesh; a slave to it, as if it's us - the only us. This constant "doing" is enslaved to our constant "needing". However, not all of these "needs" are actually "needs". They are desires that we have grown accustomed to. These false "needs" require service. The habit of "doing", in order to serve our false "needs", gives us a sense of purpose. Needing and doing are sometimes interrelated, and the two often become our sense of purpose, our identity. This is why we often identify ourselves by what we "do".
However, our real purpose is just to "be", which is why we are called human "beings". We have grown accustomed to the acts of "doing", and "doing" things has mistakenly been prioritized over "being". Many of us become afraid, anxious, or uncomfortable when we are not "doing", because we subconsciously believe that the "doing" is our purpose; that the "doing" is us. Holding this belief would mean that if we stopped "doing", we would stop having a purpose, and we would cease to be us. We have ignorantly accepted the role and identity of slaves, ("doers") that constantly "do". Yet, the "doing" should be secondary to what we are. Any "doing" should be a secondary result that comes from who we are as a "being". We don't need to "do" in order to "be". We are beings. We are meant to be "beings" that sometimes "do". When I learn to just "be" then I learn who I am. We are beings of love and light. We must first, "be". We must recognize what, and who we are as a "being", allowing our "doing" to flow second.
If we continue to "do", believing that the "doing" identifies us, then we settle for a lower, false identity. An identity based on performance and fueled by competition. Our false identities, of what we do and how much we do, are compared to those of other "doers". Creating insecurities, envy, fear, and greed, because we want our identity as a "doer" to be better than, or at least comparable to, the next "doer". Yet, if our identity is in our "being", then we can be content. Content to just be. Confident in our being and confident in our "doing", no matter how great or how little that may be.
Jesus identified his being with love. Therefore His "doings" were from love. Jesus identified his being with truth and life, not because of anything he had done, but because it was, and is, who he is as a being. This leads him to say, "I am the way, the truth, and the life". He identified with his "being", not his "doings". The "doings" flowed second. Before Jesus began his ministry he was just being. He was learning, being, and growing in wisdom. Growing in wisdom means growing into the true identity of your being. The doing (or "ministry") came second. His ministry came from the core of his being, his identity. He was Compassion, therefore, compassion compelled him to heal many who were sick.
It's easy to start "doing" in order to prove our value, worth, or identity. But this leads to a false sense of value, worth, and identity. Through stillness, introspection, prayer, meditation, etc., we can learn to just be, which leads to the discovery of who our being is. This discovery will result in "doings" that are in alignment with our being. Be still. Take a break. Just be. Meditate on who you are as a being. Separate yourself from the constant serving of false needs, which is feeding the false identity. Daily, take at least 10-15 minutes to just be. Don't do, don't pray, don't work, don't distract, just be. God identified Himself to Moses as "I AM", not "I do". Likewise, we must identify ourselves as to what, and who, we are as a being; not what we do. God is Love, we came from love, therefore, we are love.
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